Work with me, and you will find neutrality and support for you both at a time of acute tension and often high emotion. I work with couples to enable relational understanding and communication, creating a calm reflective space where each of you has space to voice your concerns, needs and how you experience your relationship.
I work to notice and share the dynamics of your relationship, and then work with you to support changes, and different ways of understanding and being with one another. The cornerstone of this involves improving communication, so each can express themselves in a way that can be heard by the other person.
Frequently, couples counselling is not what people expect, and often presents an opportunity to heal long standing issues. Couples carve out a new way of connecting more clearly, respectfully and honestly with each other during sessions, developing the skills to continue this new way of relating way after our sessions together end.
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Couple Counselling & Relationship Therapy
Couples often come to counselling to address a specific issue in their relationship such as:
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Breaking the cycle of repetitive rows
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Issues connected to life stage; from new parents to empty nesters
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Tensions with wider family
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Recovery from an affair
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Issues around intimacy and desire discrepancy
I also support couples through the separation and divorce process, facilitating them to establish respectful, clear communication and closure.
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Relationship therapy - Not just for ‘couples’…
Couple counselling can also help when something is going wrong in other important relationships such as with parent and adult child relationships, siblings or even friends. I have a particular interest in, and experience of, working with parents and adult children, especially mothers and their adult daughters, when life events, both expected and unexpected, can place a strain on an existing relationship. I help create space for understanding and the formation of new ways of relating to support a dynamic that adapts and grows with life’s challenges and changes.
I also train qualified counsellors and psychotherapists to work with couples, please visit training for more information.
Testimonials
‘Thank you for all your help. As far as I was concerned our marriage was over and I had already moved out of our marital home. Your guidance put us back on the right path which I never thought could happen. We are now living back together and looking forward to, and planning a happy future together.
Thank you again for all your help and guidance.’ Rita & Neil
‘Shana and I wanted to thank you for your support across the series of sessions, for your patience, insight and guidance, you’ve handled us in an incredibly helpful but kind manner which we both greatly appreciate.’ Amit & Shana
‘I was dreading this, but now I’m here, having met you, it’s actually ok.’ Adrian
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‘This is exactly what I was seeking from the work; just some time to understand things a little better. It may not be perfect between Mum and me but our relationship is clearer, warmer yet more respectful and we’re grateful for that. Thank you.’ Diane & Mandy (mother-daughter)